At least one of us has thought about having a 3sum or a trio, or any other name you like. It’s okay to admit it. Many of us have done it. Perhaps you traveled the distance on a wild college night or were invited to wine and dine with a couple you met online or at a bar. 3sums may not be for everyone 3sums, but they are great for most people. Even if you only have a night with your 3sum, it is worth sharing your wildest fantasies.
There is no way to ruin a casual relationship like that. It’s understandable that you are feeling nervous at first. But there are many more questions: Who should I choose to be my fuckbuddy? How do I ensure everyone is happy? There are some people you shouldn’t invite to your bedroom. If you’re thinking about adding another person to your bed-twisting game, we can help you decide what is best for you.
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Close Friend
My rule of thumb is A) not to have sex only with close friends and B) never to bring a close friend into a relationship, no matter how mundane it might seem. In this instance, we are not using the term “relationship” as it could be your best friend or just a casual relationship to get yours. For argument’s sake, let’s assume that you’re in the most casual fuckbuddy relationship. You might feel jealousy if you invite a friend to the party. Your fuckbuddy relationship may be at risk.
You might find yourself in a situation where your fuckbuddy wants you to include him/her in the mix, or shows an interest in them that could put you at risk of losing the boot. This could lead to a breakdown in your friendship with your friend. What’s the difference between a friend and a lover? The two most important things in a relationship are romantic feelings and physical touch. So why risk putting your “friend” label on the line for one night of fun and excitement when there are other options? This can quickly get too complicated. It’s like the old saying “Don’t shit wherever you eat.”
Acquaintance
A friend is the best option for most people. You get the simplicity of a stranger, but the safety and security that comes with being with someone you trust and can trust. They are familiar enough with you that you may feel less anxious about sharing your fuckbuddy and letting another person see you at your most vulnerable. You might find your inhibitions are lessened around someone you trust than a stranger. This will allow you to let go of your fears and enjoy the opportunity to try something new. You might find this your new bread and butter.
Stranger
People want their fuckbuddy, their fuckbuddy, to be their fuckbuddy. They don’t want their friends or acquaintances to know what they are doing in the bedroom. This is perfectly fine. Don’t worry! There are other ways to get your freak on. You just might need to grab a beer, a gin martini, and a friend and look for potential candidates. This can be a fun way to have some fun foreplay. This will allow you to both discover what you enjoy and what doesn’t.
The thrill of inviting someone home from work that you don’t know could add something extra to the time you spend together. It’s easy to do things with a stranger. You have the option of having a one-and done, or a “lose your names and we will loose ours” situation. Or you can bring in a second fuckbuddy to add complexity to your relationship with fuckbuddy No. After a night out at the club, 1 (aka original Fuckbuddy) will have a late night call with his booty.
A Mixture of Genitalia
Are you and your fuckbuddy open to the idea of bringing in a man or a woman? Two girls and one guy would be the most popular, but you can also have two boys and one girl. This might sound less common …., but you are having a 3sum for fun. Your male fuckbuddy is not gay just because another man is involved.
Guys, don’t be discouraged if a girl brings another man into your bedroom. You can still be 100% straight. *Gasp. *Gasp. You should listen to your fuckbuddy, and be open to their needs. There are no set rules that you must follow. You can make your own. Although you don’t need to have sex at all times, it is possible. Toys are not mandatory, but they can be. While you don’t need to love a 3sum, it is possible. You all need to be open-minded. It will not be a mistake.