People love NSA and FWB relationships because they are free from judgments that allow for sexual exploration to take place. Buddybang sessions are a great place to experiment and roleplay with your fuckbuddy. This is a great way for people to have fun and spice things up. BDSM is one of the most well-known forms. Although BDSM is not for everyone, it can be a great way to have fun and spice up your life with a fuckbuddy if you feel things are getting a little boring. However, BDSM is often misunderstood.
Although bondage and punishments for sexual misconduct are fun and a part BDSM, they don’t do all of the . There’s more to a relationship than just DOM and SUB. There are many variations of these categories. If you are interested in trying out these categories, but not feeling like you have to choose one, then you will want to continue reading the rest of the article. We will break down the roles in the BDSM space. You guys can roleplay in the roles you want if you are able to fit one and your Buddybang buddy is able to fit another.
DOM Archetypes:
- Tops: The basic dominant character who directs the scene, from beginning to end.
- Daddies/Mommies – A parent character, usually to a sub who likes acting childlike
- Master/Mistresses are BDSM experts who have been doing this for a while. They have always got someone to rely on at all times
- Heroes: Characters who rescue others from distress.
- Mentor: A BDSM top that wants to teach a sub how the BDSM universe works
- Owner: A person who owns a pet or a servant. They bark commands and their subordinates obey, always!
- Sadists are people who get sexual satisfaction from inflicting pain upon others. These people work best with masochists.
- Gentleman/Gentlewoman: Chivalrous tops who are mannerly and respectful, while still maintaining control
SUB Archetypes:
- Masochist: A person who receives pain as sexual satisfaction. These people are most successful when they are paired with Sadists.
- Victim: A person who is in need of rescue and who enjoys being a victim in a sexual scene
- Good girl/Good boy: A sub who is obedient and receives praise from their dom counterparts for being a good person.
- Baby: A sub-child who is curious about the world and loves being cared for
- Slave: A person who obeys their king. This person can also be called a pet. They are clearly not considered a dom.
- Brat: Smart ass sub, who is known for his/her misbehavior and instigates trouble, knowing that he/she would be punished
- Servant: A maid often in a scene is a servant. They obey all that the dom requests (but not to a slave’s degree).
You now have a better understanding of some roles in the community. Now you can test them for yourself. Like all things, BDSM does not have a single role. One can be mixed up with other characters or a switch, someone who likes to be sub and dom. You need to be cautious if you’re in a Buddybang or Fuckbuddy relationship.
This is a common way for people to trust one another and have open discussions about safety, consent and how the scene should play out. Even though you might not be emotionally close with your fuckbuddy at the moment, it is important to have these conversations before trying to test the waters. It is a wonderful experience when all parties are involved and invested.